I’m Michelle Carter, your End of Life Coach here to answer your most frequently asked questions. When is the right time to plan for end of life? Well, the answer is right now. Right now, when you’re not in a crisis situation, when you’re not worried about what’s going to happen next or how to pay for it, that is the time to plan for end of life.
These are important decisions and you want to make sure that you’re making these decisions with a lot of discussion with the family members or other advisors and people who are close to you, when you’re not in a stressful atmosphere. When you are in the middle of a crisis, when there’s been some sort of medical emergency or an accident and you’re emotional and you know, you’re dealing with a lot of different scenarios and emotions, that is not the best time to talk about what your end of life wishes are and how you wish to be cared for and what your funeral plans are. Because there are too many other more important things to think about.
The time to have those discussions is now before you’re in a crisis scenario. The goal is to have conversations with your loved ones about what kind of care you want to receive at the end of life. How you see your end of life occurring, whether you want to be at home, if you have the ability to have care at home, what your funeral wishes are. Do you want to be buried? Do you want to be cremated? Do you want your body donated to science whenever it is that your wishes are the time to have those discussions with your family is before you are in a crisis scenario. There is no better time than the present.
The reason I became an end of life coach was because I became so frustrated by seeing families make the same mistakes over and over again that were simply the result of a lack of planning. Spending an hour or two or even three now talking with your family members, your spouse, your children, and having those conversations and putting everything in writing- that hour or two now can save weeks and months of heartache and money down the line. So if you do nothing else today, start having that conversation.